People tend to respond to conflicting situations with a predominant style of coping. Although a style is usually the dominant, we have the ability to vary in style in the face of different conflicts and in the face of the same conflict as it develops.
Among the different styles to address a conflict we have:
.- Competition: There is much concern for one’s own desires, one thinks only of oneself and not of others. The predominant attitude is competitive. The strategies used are: Oppose disagreement, persuade, be firm, insist, repeat, control, be inaccessible.
.- Avoidance: Avoid conflict at all costs, does not directly address the problems, it does not matter “or what I want” or “what the other wants”. The strategies are: Withdraw, delay or avoid the answer, divert attention, suppress emotions.
.- Accommodation: One does not care about his own and only seeks to satisfy the desires of the other, does not confront, relents and accepts what the other party wants. The strategies are: Agree, give in, recognize your own mistakes, give up, convince yourself that it is unimportant, appease.
.- Commitment: One does not stop worrying about their own but also considers what the other wants. Effort to reach the midpoint between the two positions, find the way to distribute, each one gives a little. The strategies used are: Moderation, haggling, split the difference, give in something.
.- Collaboration: It is very different from the other styles and little practiced. It is possible to be interested in oneself and at the same time for the welfare of the other. It is not about “sharing the cake” the collaboration seeks a way to expand and increase it. The strategies used are: Accept the differences, analyze the strengths and weaknesses of both points of view, assert themselves and invite others to present their points of view, seek information.